I don't know about you, but I detest staff Christmas parties. The fact that I "don't do" Christmas doesn't really help however, I just cannot see the point of sitting around getting plastered with a bunch of people that one doesn't really consider friends. Hardly sounds like a festive and relaxed situation to put oneself into in a season that already wreaks of anxiety.
I haven't drank alcohol in years - mostly due to the depression it causes when one isn't drinking - and so, as you can imagine, it's not at all fun for me to sit around and watch people consume mass quantities of a substance that I can no longer tolerate. The final straw was last year when, after planning a nice dinner at a restaurant, the choice was reconsidered only because the restaurant didn't serve alchohol. Had this place not been reputed to have the most amazing food prepared by a man who had years of experience, I might not have minded but since then, this restaurant has become one of my favourites. My disappointment in the people I work with that couldn't get past the "no-alcohol" thing hit an all-time peak at that time. (It hasn't really changed since then either)
It was mostly down to one person who felt that they needed to drink which led to me to boycott because of the short-sightedness of the others. The truly ironic thing was that after years of not attending the staff party, I had really looked forward to last year. It just reaffirmend for me that I should just stick to my guns and skip this so-called festive event every year.
This year, they opted for a nice event during the day (which, of course, I decided to pass on) which was very thoughtful of the management. Then today, I get an email (why I am checking them while I am on holiday, I don't know) telling of another party at the home of the person that ruined it last year. You can be sure that it will be flowing in alcohol. Thank goodness that I will be out of town for that one.
It got me to thinking though. Why do people have to drink at these things? Is it because they cannot relax in a situation where the bosses and the peons don't mix? Do we all secretly hate each other outside of the office but just learn to work together like we learned to do in the school sandbox? Or is it that we just wanna feel numb socially around each other like we do in the office? If so, why don't we just all get plastered at work everyday and then have a nice, alcohol-free event at the end of the year.
I suppose that I am one of those people that learned the really negative effects of consuming too much alcohol and now that I am cured, have become as annoying as those who quit smoking. You know the ones that spend all of their time warning others of the evils and try to convince them to quit. It's just that I can remember a time where I became truly numb and subsequently depressed enough to just not want to get out of bed... ever... And that was because alcohol made me feel more charming as well as more able to express those things that I was afraid to when I was sober.
Can you imagine how easy it would be to tell that manager exactly how you feel about their ability to do their job while under the influence of a few drinks? I can and that's why I won't do that around those people. I'd rather use my feelings to my advantage in the workplace. The less they know about me and the way that I think, the better.
Anyway, I suppose that it's all just a case that the people one works with aren't always the people that they want to hang around with. In my case, I know it's true. If I was really serious about hanging out with coworkers, I suppose I would already be doing that.
If you are about to embark on your own journey of holiday cheer, I wish you the best and also wish you a safe one!